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"Too exhausted to do anything — and still showing up for everyone else?"
Calm Mind. Clear Voice.
You used to have a buzz about you. Energy, purpose, that sense of yourself. Somewhere between the giving and the going and the never quite switching off — it got lost. I help you find it again.
No commitment. Just clarity.
Can’t thank you enough, this is the first time in weeks that the tight knot in my stomach and chest and gone.
Hoping it’s not back tomorrow but I’m burping for England. Even took dogs for a walk after. Xxx
Why I built this
I didn't come to this work through a textbook.
I came through years of working in a busy GP surgery, starting as a receptionist and working my way up to practice manager. I was capable, dependable, and quietly running on empty. I was the person everyone leaned on, and I had completely forgotten how to lean on anything myself.
When burnout finally caught up with me, I went looking for support. What I discovered was how difficult it was to find something that felt genuinely integrated, clinically grounded, and affordable at the point when I had the least capacity to keep searching.
So I built it myself.
I retrained as a wellbeing coach, qualified as a TARC EFT Practitioner, and later as a clinical hypnotherapist, not to collect credentials, but because I wanted to understand, from every angle, what it actually takes to help someone find their way back to themselves.
I also spent years watching what chronic, unmanaged stress does to people over time. I saw it in that surgery, the slow progression from exhaustion to anxiety, from anxiety to something much harder to recover from.
That lit a fire in me that has never gone out. I didn't want to wait until people were sitting in a waiting room. I wanted to reach them before that point.
Qualifications Wellbeing Coaching, Raw Horizons, 2019 (Association for Coaching accredited) TARC EFT Practitioner, Live4energy College, 2021 Clinical Hypnotherapy Diploma, NCCH, 2024 24 years NHS experience, receptionist to practice manager
That is why this practice exists. And it is why every part of it, from the one-to-one work in Aberdeenshire and Online, to the most affordable digital download, is built around one simple promise:
Calm Mind. Clear Voice.
I use a structured three-part approach, built specifically for people whose burnout and people-pleasing are rooted in identity rather than just habit.
TARC EFT, for releasing the emotional charge behind people-pleasing, guilt, and chronic over-giving.
Clinical Hypnotherapy, for pattern-level change, deeper nervous system regulation, and restoring a steadier sense of self.
Practical Coaching Frameworks, for communication, boundaries, and the day-to-day tools that make change stick.
Free People-Pleasing Pattern Check
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What I Provide
Practical support for calmer emotions and clearer communication
I work with burnt-out people-pleasers, running on empty, and who are ready to feel steadier, set limits that stick, and get a bit of themselves back.
Burnout, Overwhelm & Emotional Load
When your mind will not switch off and everything feels like too much, I help you make sense of what is happening, reduce emotional overload, and find steadier ways to respond.
People-Pleasing, Boundaries & Clear Communication
If you struggle to say no, worry about how you come across, or replay conversations for hours, I help you build confidence, set kinder boundaries, and say what you mean with less guilt.
Ready for a different way forward?
You had a buzz once. Let's get it back.
If you are tired of overthinking, people-pleasing, and feeling emotionally overloaded, I offer practical support to help you feel calmer, clearer, and more confident in how you respond.
"Hi, I'm Jo, watch this if you're not sure this is for you."
What I Help With
Support for the patterns that leave you running on empty
Burnout & Overwhelm
When your mind won't switch off and everything feels like too much.
Too exhausted to function, still showing up for everyone else
Running on empty with no idea how to stop
People-Pleasing & Boundaries
When saying no feels impossible and guilt follows you everywhere.
Always the one who says yes, even when you're already overwhelmed
Guilt when you put yourself first, resentment when you don't
Clear Communication
When you know what you want to say but it comes out wrong — or stays stuck.
Over-explaining, then replaying the conversation for hours
Shrinking when you should speak up, second-guessing every message
Someone who felt exactly like you do right now..
Working with Jo has been like a weeping hole being gently sewn up. She's helped me let go of the negative thoughts I was holding on to, ground my energy so I can think clearer, and not feel bad for putting boundaries in place. I'm more confident and calmer.
Ways to Work With Me
Practical support for calmer emotions and clearer communication
1:1 Coaching —Personalised support for people-pleasing, burnout, boundaries, and communication fatigue. Four 90-minute sessions. £388 online, £468 in person in Aberdeenshire.
Silence your Mind : Hidden Reset — A self-paced starting point for when your mind feels noisy. £22
Scripts & Tools — Practical resources to help you say no, speak up, and handle difficult conversations with more confidence.
Workshops & Resources — Supportive learning to help you understand your patterns and build steadier responses in everyday life.
Real people. Real change.
The main change I am experiencing is letting go of blaming my family for my past and current issues.
Importantly, I can now recognise why I react in particular ways and consciously choose to behave differently.
Instead of regarding my past experiences as a burden, I now see them as lessons in how and how not to behave and react.
This greater awareness is sometimes a challenge to maintain, but is helping me greatly in all areas of my life. Thank you Jo!
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